If you’ve ever tried to revenge, come, let’s talk, I’ve also been there and I quite understand.
You want to get back so you don’t feel less of yourself.
You want to show the person how exactly it feels to hurt another person and that I understand, but recently I’ve come to understand that seeking revenge is perpetuating an abuse cycle and will go on and on until someone stops, or one person dies . So is it really worth it?
That is why ignoring and choosing silence is often considered the best revenge for a few reasons which are:
1)Breaking the cycle: In a situation of conflict, ignoring instead of revenging can break the cycle of blame and counter-blame. By not responding with aggression, you’re stopping the back-and-forth that can escalate the situation further.
2)It maintains dignity: By choosing not to engage in a revenge mission , you maintain your own dignity, self-respect and authenticity. You refuse to sink to the level of petty disputes or name-calling, which is often more about the other person than about you.
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3)Conveys strength: Choosing silence over revenging shows that you are secure enough in your position and you strength doesn’t come from getting back at others.
4)Preserves energy: Engaging in arguments or fights and strategizing on ways to get back can be exhausting, emotionally and mentally. By choosing silence, you conserve your energy for more positive and productive activities.
5)Confuses the aggressor: An unexpected response, or lack of one, can throw an aggressor off-balance. They expect a reaction, and when they don’t get one, it can be confusing and frustrating for them.
Again, in some situations speaking out or defending yourself is much necessary and important however silence or ignoring is not about accepting mistreatment or injustice, but about choosing where to invest your energy and attention.
It’s important to note that setting boundaries moving forward is not revenge but a form of protection which is wisdom.
As a child of the King that you are, go on, raise your shoulder high and focus on becoming the best version of yourself.
